Lagos girls can be called a lot of things.
Dumb, smart, funny, cheap, expensive, ugly, fine, literate, tush, kpako...whatever.
But you know what? None of that is true. Lagos girls are the most
beautiful creatures on earth. I feel this way for now, maybe until I go
to Brazil, and soak myself in all those hot booties and high-rounded
buttocks. But for now, let's stick with our lovely Lagos girls.
Na food wey dey your front wey you go chop!
People
call Lagos girls all sorts of names, but to be fair, you only get the
kind of girls you do because of the way you are. If you're tush, tush
girls come to you, if you're the guy who drinks Alomo on the daily, and
smoke weed without any iota of
Ajebutterism in you, then
brother, don't go on your knees hoping God will send you Genevieve
Nnaji. If you get a whore, then give thanks to Jah Almighty.
First,
let's talk about the issue of money. Attack me if you want, but most
Lagos girls do not want your money. Maybe the student girls need the
cash, but good luck to you if you're an honest working class guy, and
find yourself attracted to the funny accents and formings of the young
women from UniLag, with pointy breasts, and tempting arses, then my
brother, you are surely on the highway to your village. Broke,
penniless, and dry. They will suck your money and give it to their
handsome, bubbly student boys with more swag, and energy.
I'm not
saying you should never date a student. God forbid! Students deserve all
the love they can get. All I'm saying is that you should respect
yourself and your career, and allow the students date the students. Let
the broke students date broke students. Let them sneak out of their
hostels, drink garri, eat chicken and chips, hug themselves, and
disvirgin themselves. Don't get into that equation, unless you have a
good career ahead of you as an Aristo Daddy. Then God bless your hustle.
Lagos
girls do not want your money. No. All they want from a good guy is love
and affection. If your wallet gets thrown open in the course of being a
loverboy, then they'll love you more. Your ATM is not their prayer
point. They look out for potential, and a good career guy who is sure to
have all the skills and talent to one day be the millionaire. Those
things last. Your present money might not.
So that's said. Let's go straight to the fun part.
No Lagos guy is supposed to be single.
Women plenty for Lagos. But the reason why many still stay single is
because they have what the Non-Ajebutters call 'Big Eye' or 'Open Eye'.
They want more than they deserve.
“
That girl no get yansh, that girl no get yansh"....that was how my Uncle Aje died alone and sad at 60.
It's
only in Lagos that an Agbero will go to church and pray for the woman
of his dreams. And guess who she is? You will expect an Agbero to pray
for a fellow Agbero woman, with thick yam legs, and an annoying 'H'
speech factor. But no! He'll pray for a supermodel girlfriend, with
plenty of money and a big shiny car.
I believe wealth is a relative term, subject to individual meaning
and interpretation. Success is best described in a number of ways that
do not in any way become the same for different people. So let's clarify
this.
By the Nigerian societal standards, I won't be called a
rich man. Even though I live in my independent personal space, have over
5 close personal relationships, a fairly decent job, and a family who
love me to nuts, but in Nigerian terms, I will never be called a 'rich'
man.
But I still get girls, perhaps way more than my fair share of
women, and I am not rich. Neither do they 'chop' my money. Maybe
because I have a specific way of dealing with women, or they just love
me to pieces, and never ask for money, but when I look closely, it's
just my way of dealing with women that makes me a candidate for love,
and not a tool for practical parasitology.
So for all the good old
angry, frustrated men of Lagos state and beyond that think that not
spending money on women makes me the Antichrist, I am going to share
some of my secrets on how I achieve so many women, but never have to
spend all my salary on them.
Never Date A Broke Lagos Girl
This
is the first mistake many Lagos dudes make. Just because she's pretty,
wears nice clothes, smells like a Parisian Garden, and laughs hard at
all your dry jokes does not mean you should collect her number.
The
economy is hard. Many girls are broke these days, and since firms are
not looking to employ half-baked graduates, and parents are not ready to
feed their adult babies, the girls need to survive. They need to come
up with a hustle, that feeds and clothes them all.
You Are That Hustle!
If
you fall into a relationship with a broke girl, you automatically
become her job. Your small salary becomes 'our' salary, and your life
become linked to her. She will be eager to please, give you the best sex
ever, but your life begins to go downhill. Avoid these types.
Never Bring Out Your Wallet The First Time You Meet
This
sends the wrong message, even to a decent lady. Sell yourself first as a
sincere individual, not as Santa Claus or the Senator's last born.
She'll appreciate that. Never pay her fare, or offer to buy her stuff.
You might argue that doing so will make her know that you are a 'giver',
you're not stingy, and you can share. But those aren't the first things
she should be thinking about you. How about thoughts like, 'He's such a
funny guy', or he's so chaming and sexy, or he's cute when he laughs.'.
I'll take those ones any day, over 'He's so awesome when he opens his wallet'.
Don't talk about your job...
...except
if it's a flashy job, like mine that is interesting, and makes you meet
lots of interesting people who will be of interest to the girl. If you
have to talk about it, make it funny and interesting, not rich and
important. If you are important, she'll notice anyway. Don't make it who
you are. Sell yourself, not your source of livelihood.
- Make her see you the way you are. Don't form. Forming can only make her expect more from you...and your small salary.
- Be
sure to come across as ambitious and forward-thinking. Lagos girls like
a guy who can sound like he will be the CEO of a Multinational firm one
day. Tell her your plans for the future. Even if you are a
ne'er-do-well. Fake it until God blesses you.
- Take her money, when she offers it. But don't ask her for it. Form small too.
Girls are very caring beings, and they will like to show how much they
care about you, even if it means spending their money on your needs.
When you hit a rough patch, and she's still with you, just complain to
her. She'll offer you money. Reject it, form, tell her thank you. She
will press, and only when she offers the third time should you accept
it. Never accept it on the first try, or ask for it, or else you will be
called a 'gold digger'.
- Be faithful to her...at least in her
presence. When a Lagos girls know that you are faithful to her, and the
big asses of other Yoruba women do not appeal to you, then she will grow
a conscience, and not eat your money. She will know that you are
'together', and won't do anything to run you down.
Finally,
if you do everything above, and your girlfriend still wants to only chop
your money, then take her for deliverance, or leave. If that behaviour
repeats with another woman, then accept your faith. The lord is grooming
you to be an Aristo Baba.